I think now and then trying to figure out what I can call this stage of my life ! Stage where in I am almost settled in my job(not financially but as one of my friend says I am in my comfort zone ) where my family members, relatives are forcing me to get married.I am 23 and 3 months short to be 24.
I think again and again to decide if this age of mine is right to get married, Am I really prepared to handle all the responsibilities !!! Am I ready for that whole marriage business which is personally think is the second innings of each ones life.
Marriage is not that simple term as it seems to be.It has so many things which knowingly or unknowingly comes with it.It is like a super tetra pack with some small gifts attached to it.
The thought of losing my status of single, my freedom to be irresponsible, flamboyant runs a shiver down my nerves. The thought of some other person interfering with all my mind, heart business kills me. The thought that my relation with all my friends wouldn't remain same worries me. I know its not necessary all these things will happen but considering the worst case scenario it looks so gloomy.
Giving away everything in life that too for a person you don't know , whom you have met only once or twice, Whose family is an alien to you is so difficult.(PS. I am talking about typical arrange marriage).
But still our forefathers always believed in this institute called marriage. Everyone accepted it , lived with it and are more or less happy.
With the same hope of getting lucky once again and being happy someday even I will accept all these things in life.
Just dunno when the day will come :).. First the revolt of my heart and mind needs to come to an end. Only then I can add up to the list .
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ReplyDeleteThe only thing to fear is fear itself!
ReplyDeleteI think this is what all of us will go through. I suppose its a lot harder in case of arranged marriages. Just a few things. I think you start your relation as strangers, but thats true with every relationship, isn't it? You will get time to get to know the person better. It wont be so scary after that. You have spoken extensively about the losses. (singlehood, relation with friends, freedom etc) But, you will gain quite a few things as well. I dont wish to elaborate on that part ;) Things you once dreaded wont seem to be such a big deal after a while.
Chillax, it will all work out fine!
P.S.: Whatever I have said above is shallow talk and carries absolutely no weightage owing to my inexperience. I ll be a bundle of nerves when I am put in the same position. :) But still, you owe yourself that chance to find out how it all works out.
True Dear..It wont be that bad. There are many positives to it too :)
ReplyDeleteBut my current state of mind can just see what all things will change in my life :).
Actually as u say coming out of comfort zone is always little difficult :)